Because this has been such an important learning for me I will say this all again with a couple of additions.
For me, dyads are a place of refuge and rejuvenation, a chance to put my attention on myself and notice in the quietness, the unseen universe that underpins everything. Doing a dyad is a chance to see and be seen, to hear and be heard, to understand and be understood. Dyads are about connection on a deep level without working on relationship.
In our lives, we need relationships to feel connected. Relationships and the connections we have through them bring us emotional and mental turmoil but also mental and emotional health. We are a social species.
In a dyad, we need the connection without working on the relationship.
This has been a large learning for me personally. I’ve made many errors on this front over and over again until I got it right. Being in a dyad without trying to have any specific effect on my partner while telling my truth and still maintaining as deep a connection as I can.
There are a myriad of ways in which I have tried to have some specific effect on my partner. In every case, it comes down to me not accepting my partner as they are. All this time getting clear that I am not working on the relationship in a dyad has been drawing me to greater and greater acceptance of what is, both in others and in myself.
Someone shared this with me on this topic this week.
I noticed in myself the strong urge to teach or support, when I had a dyad partner in deep distress. I just watched it and noticed that the urge opened a space for deep empathy and compassion. And I noticed that for me to hold that space for them to be in their distress exactly as they were, was more helpful than any words I could offer.
Get connected, See and be seen, hear and be heard, Understand and be understood, with dyad meditation.
Come to a deeper acceptance of yourself and others.
I look forward to seeing you online or in person sometime soon
Blessings,
